Why I’m Not Playing The Dating Game

Dating

Two days ago, I met up with four friends for dinner and drinks. As we exchanged funny anecdotes that weren’t so funny when they happened, two brought up their online dating experiences. Betsey* said she met up with a guy she found attractive online, but turned out to be unhygienic in person. “He didn’t stink. He had something, like puss, coming out of his ear…I was going to ignore it at first, but then he flicked it, and I just couldn’t.”

We giggled. It’s funny now, but I bet it wasn’t back then, I offered. She agreed, but said things weren’t too complicated, “You meet the person at a public place and if you feel uncomfortable, you make up some excuse and leave.”

Nick said his experience was nothing unusual. “We met and exchanged numbers. She texted me a few times trying to make plans, but for one reason or the other, it never worked out. After a while, I gave up.” He’s never been the kind to stress anything, so I wasn’t surprised to hear this.  [Read more...]

Is It Truly Possible To Love Your Job?

Travel Writer

I’ve been doing a lot of thinking lately, not because I want to, but because my current situation forces me to.

Yesterday, I went out to eat with friends. The place had a mellow ambiance, so for a second, I imagined myself working there.  I spoke to our waitress and told her I’m a writer. She wasn’t the least bit surprised. She said one of the girls there is a journalist and others are students. “We all have a life outside of here,” she offered. But none wanted to settle for an office job that required more work with less pay than what they currently making.

“The all-too-American story of the struggling artist,” my friend chimed in, and he was right. “The broke artist” is not just a cliché; it’s a reality. It’s what I’ve heard most of my life, and what I’m currently experiencing. It’s the reason I tried talking myself out of a career in writing, until passion overshadowed logic. [Read more...]

Why Are Writers Prone To Depression?

Writer

After watching Black Butterflies, a film depicting the life of South African poet Ingrid Jonker, I found myself contemplating the question that often arises once I’ve watched a film such as this: Why are writers prone to depression? 

It was this very question that led me to the Ted Talks speech Elizabeth Gilbert, author of Eat, Pray, Love (my serendipitous sign the day I quit my job) gave in 2009.

In her speech (featured below), Gilbert shares the pressures writers face, addressing questions like: “Aren’t you worried your work will never sell?” When an artist finally succeeds, questions shift over to: “Do you think you’ll ever top your best work?”  [Read more...]

A Hectic Week Thus Far And The Realization That Freelancing Is Liberating

Busy Woman

Man, I can’t believe it’s only Wednesday! I’m not saying this to complain, but to express how proud I am of all my hard work. For the past few weeks, I’ve been struggling to acquire a sense of direction. When I decided to freelance, I was very optimistic and though I tried my best to also remain realistic, somewhere along the lines I started daydreaming of success, without truly understanding just how challenging the entire process would be.  [Read more...]

Public Relations Is Pushing My Freelance Writing Career

Study

I’m using plenty of what I learned in college – from the tiny bit of Italian I recall to the public relations and advertising material I studied and practiced once I transferred to a four-year college.

As a freelancer, I’m also using what I learned while working at an advertising agency. I spent all day yesterday researching. I looked at the markets I’m interested in and the kinds of articles I want to pitch (more on that later). I read the entire 2014 Writer’s Market, which I highly recommend. Midday, it hit me all over again, what I’m working – not trying, since that’s a weak word – to do here; I am building a business.  [Read more...]

10 Writing Props To Help You Get Through Writer’s Block

Writer's Block

For many of you, Mondays are a drag. They represent the return to routine, and of course, the lingering effects of insufficient sleep. Add to that the stress that often accompanies a steady job, and you’ve got the perfect concoction for writer’s block. When I’m feeling uninspired, I read A LOT, and this in turn, sparks my creativity. But maybe you don’t have enough time to look for inspiration, so I’ve created a list of props to get you out of your funk and in the mood to write – even if it’s during your lunch break.  [Read more...]

My Obsession With Italy And What I Intend To Do About It

Italy

Perhaps it was on my sixteenth birthday cruise, or during the art class I took in college. Maybe it had to do with my wonderful Italian professor, or the movies I’ve watched. I’m not sure which film to blame: Letters To Juliet, Under The Tuscan Sun, or And While We Were Here. I can’t seem to pinpoint when my obsession with this country I’ve never been to began. All I know is that I’m not giving up on the possibility of a trip there this summer. I almost gave up on it, but I’m not. [Read more...]

Getting Published On The Huffington Post

Huffington Post

Today, my post was published on The Huffington Post, and it is currently the leading story. I received a few questions on how I made this happen, so I thought I’d address them in this post.

First, I want to clarify that The Huffington Post does not pay its bloggers. I did this in order to share my content with a bigger audience and build a greater readership. It is a wonderful way to connect with other women (my target audience) and bloggers.

Here’s a short breakdown of my experience:

I’ve been an avid reader of The Huffington Post for some time. I enjoy the voices and lifestyle verticals, especially the sections for women and travel. For the past couple of months, I visited the website frequently, reading the posts to get a sense of what kind of material I could provide and which vertical it suited best.  [Read more...]

The Kind Of Job I Want

Writer

Isn’t it strange how you pay mind to certain things, but it isn’t until someone asks a question that you consider the details? The other day, a friend of mine asked what kind of job I’m looking for. I had a tough time responding.

See, I hadn’t really stopped to consider exactly what kind of job I want. I usually open up the job search page, and know what I like when I see it.  [Read more...]

The Pros And Cons Of Working From Home

Working From Home

About five months ago, I made the brave decision to quit my job at an advertising agency to focus on writing. Before handing in my letter of resignation, I asked the universe for a sign, and that day, during my lunch break, I ran into one of my favorite writers, Elizabeth Gilbert, the author of Eat, Pray, Love.

Flash forward a couple of months, and I’ve taken the time to explore my writing. I’ve rebranded this blog, and I’ve covered events and interviewed celebrities for LatinTRENDS Magazine. All in all, I have a deeper sense of who I am personally and professionally. It is for this reason that I’ve been able to create a short list depicting the pros and cons of working from home, just in case you’re thinking of doing the same.  [Read more...]